Idaho Summer's

If you made it into my highlight video.... it's because you're BADASS and I LOVE YOU! If you didn't make it into this video.... wanna hang out this summer?!?!?!

MOST of this is Summer 2013... i'm just late on putting it together. There is, however, some other trips mixed in with it. Was fun to make... and ultimately it proves.... 

Why MY FRIENDS ARE BETTER THAN YOURS!!!!!!!!! LOL

Fearless Spirit, a Humble Heart, and an Open Mind.

Often times, I hear people saying, mostly younger people saying, that who they hang out with, and who they surround themselves with does NOT affect who they are and how they live their life. This is naive, ridiculous, and complete rubbish. The people you surround yourself with will DIRECTLY affect the way you live, act, talk, think, and treat others. When you take from good people, without contributing, they will catch on, and distance themselves from you. Give back, everything you get, and then 10% more. Love the people around you, support them, and guide them, within parameters. 

Wisdom comes with age, but it can start early, and take effect as soon as you choose it to. The friendships and partnerships we build throughout life are the single most important thing we can do on earth. Within that, is loving, caring, and keeping compassion, for those you know, and those you don't know. Smile, live, share, embrace, remember, and document the life you love. Leave a path for others to follow that may be in doubt of their own potential. 

I've been blessed, with the best friends on the planet.  These friendships do not come for free, or easy. Constant contribution, and reflection, keep them healthy and happy. Contribute to the lives of the people around you. Make it on to their highlight reel, and put them on yours. This journey is fast, and it must be lived with a fearless spirit, a humble heart, and an open mind. 

Throw Back Thursday

Here's a Throw Back Thursday for y'all!!! Great Song! With a stroke of good luck, and a little help, I came across this song again. :) 

#TBT March 24, 2010. A great year. Life is a learning experience. Take the lessons from behind you, and apply them in front of you! 

A King would trade his finest crown....for a love, love like this.  And Warriors have laid weapons down....for a love, love like this. :)

#TBT February 12, 2010

Be a Lover. Life goes by fast. Enjoy the moments, Forgive Always, and Learn from Everyone. You wont always do it right, but never give up trying.

Harlem Shake....

I made this video, to show you what me and my WEIRDO friends do in the wilderness.... When people are acting "normal" I feel out of place... So let me show you MY normal. Sit back and enjoy until the end... :) 

maximize the YouTube screen and enjoy our AWESOMENESS!

MIkey's Birthday!!!

Happy Birthday to one of the most badass guys on the planet. You've been a great friend over the years, pushed me to be a better person mentally and physically. Inspired me to take more chances, and to follow my dreams. I'm lucky to have you in my life 99% of the time...that other 1%, you're a real pain in the ass!! lol. Love You Brother!!!! 

Hells Canyon

What an AMAZING trip. I took two friends with me, and I made about 15 new ones. ALL amazing people that I cant wait to see again! More pics and video to come, as soon as my life gives me a free minute to collaborate! 

Birthday Vacation Just For ME!!!

Well, it's a go for my birthday vacation to Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. My host family will be out of town the entire week that I am there, so I will have their WHOLE condo to myself. It is a young European married couple, and they are predominantly French speaking, so I appreciate her effort to respond to me in English, even thought her message made me giggle a little. Here it is... lol

Hahahahaha! I think she meant to say "sweet message" instead of a sweat massage! I don't think i'll be giving anyone a sweat massage while I'm in Vancouver...but who knows. lol

My condo will be directly behind this beach, literally...the first set of buildings. This is English Bay Beach in Vancouver. This is in West Vancouver. It is also a 5 minute bike ride from world famous Stanley Park, which is a Cycle, and Mtn. Bike haven! 

I planned my trip a week after my birthday, so I could also check out the Honda International Firework Festival/Competition. One of the largest firework displays in the world is set off, from barges, a couple hundred yards off this beach, in the bay. I cant decide if i'm going to lay on the beach, outside my condo, and watch the fireworks, or try to wiggle my way on to someone's boat in the bay... if I can make a few new friends in the right place! lol 

I was going to fly, but now I am going to drive, so I can take my cycle bike, mountain bike, and paddle board. This is one of the hundreds of trails in Stanley Park.

I'm taking a sea plane from Vancouver to Victoria, the capital, for a day long excursion, followed by a ferry ride back to Vancouver. :)

Here is a 2 minute video, of the plane ride to Victoria, experience. :)

And last, but certainly not least, i'm checking off a couple of my bucketlist.org goals, going to Grouse Mountain Skyride, and the Capilano Suspension Bridge Park. 

I suppose some people might find this to be a very boring vacation, but its right up my alley! I'm very excited. 

If any of these things seem interesting to you, or you want to know more about them, here is a list of links that will direct you to the websites of these places. Kind of fun to check out, and full of AMAZING pictures!! 

www.capbridge.com  Capilano Suspension Bridge Park

www.grousemountain.com  Grouse Mountain. Click on "Activities Guide"

www.stanleypark.org  Stanley Park, Vancouver.

www.hondacelebrationoflight.com World Famous Firework Show, on 3 different nights, July 26, July 30, and August 2.

And FINALLY... I highly recommend that all of you go to www.bucketlist.org and start your own bucket list. It keeps track of them for you, you can add to them anytime you want, you can mark them "complete" add photos of you completing them, along with date and time. Very awesome site! You can also "follow" people, and see as they accomplish their bucket list goals. :) Here is my direct bucket list page. :)

www.bucketlist.org/list/pifer.adam/

As always, CHEERS! and Much Love!!

Tiny House Dream, Complete!

My AMAZING friend Kristie traveled to Hawaii and lived while she built this tiny house. She comes home to Idaho tomorrow. So amazing, and so talented!!! What a cool project! Who doesn't love this new wave of Tiny House's!!! You will actually be able to rent it out for a stay! 

You can also check out her blog website, as she documents and explains everything she does on these projects! Such an incredible lady! 

http://www.tinyhouseontheprairie.net

Chameleon's

Sometimes, all you need, to get over someone, is to simply get to know them....

Hells Canyon Raft Trip Coming Up!!!

My buddy, Bear, made this video from his trip down Hells Canyon last summer. I am pretty excited, and a little nervous also, to be doing this trip in one month! I've been on white water, but nothing this big. I cant wait to meet new people on this trip, make new friends, and build some incredible memories with them! Nothing better than white water, campfire, sleeping on the beach, and great folks! BRING IT ON! 

Boise Greenbelt

Was a beautiful day Monday. Had to get out and enjoy my first ride of the year! Hopefully it opens the flood gates for many more! I'm ready! Been missing the bike all winter.

This is my favorite section of the Boise Greenbelt. I don't know why it sounds like I am in a New York City Subway, this is real time, not sped up. Its just super noisy... could be the rocket pack on my back.... not sure. :)

 

 

Goo Goo Dolls

Beyond excited and surprised to see this show live tonight in  person, in Boise. I've always been able to express my feelings on paper, but, there have been times in my life, I've been numb and silent. This band has always been able to speak for me in those times. Such a sentimental group to me, and a group I have loved since High School!!


Too Many good songs to list, but here are two of my favorites from them.

This one is called "Iris" Definitely my favorite.
Favorite line from song: "And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming, or the moment of truth in your lies, when everything feels like the movies, yeah you'd bleed just to know you're alive..."

This one is called, "Before It's Too Late" Definitely my second favorite! :)
Favorite line from song: "And the risk that might break you's the one that would save a life you don't live is still lost. So stand on the edge with me. Hold back your fear and see, Nothing is real 'til it's gone..."

 

 



A few others I really like are, Come To Me, Let Love In, Better Days, and Name.

Baby Diviya

So happy, and so proud. Congrats to my good friends Derek and Vera on baby Diviya! She is beautiful, and healthy! Love is a gift given from God, that makes our life on earth complete. What a beautiful little bundle of joy! :)

I told her she was busted! and she put her hands up! Too cute. :)

Happy Valentines Day to all, and much love, excited for my night! :)

McCall, Idaho

I may have been a vacationer this weekend, but my next home purchase will definitely be in McCall. And then I'll be a vacation home, vacationer. :) McCall is, has been, and always will be such a special place to me. So many good memories of spending time up there with my family as a child. Was great to spend the weekend up there, last weekend, during the Ice Festival, and make some very new, very special memories with some very special people!

Vacations!

Well, its time to get some of these trips out of the way, and checked off the bucket list. So it's GO TIME! Here is the schedule that is booked so far, and I'd love to add a September, or October trip in there too if I can!

It starts Tomorrow! with my favorite place on Earth. McCall, Idaho for the Winter Festival, and an amazing cabin with some super amazing people!

McCall, Idaho. Winter Festival. Jan 24-28th

 

 

After McCall, is Hells Canyon Rafting Trip. I'm both nervous, and a little scared for this trip, and THAT is the feeling I love!  April 17-21

 

 

After Rafting, I am treating myself to a week in Vancouver, British Columbia, by myself, for my BIRTHDAY!!! July 18-25. With the first night, and the last night, in Seattle. I'm driving up, on purpose, so that I can take my Cycle Bike, Mountain Bike, and Stand Up Paddle Board. :)

 

I'm staying right on the beach, on the upper west side, next to Staley Park. I'm particularly excited to wake up each morning and ride, visit the Capilano Suspension Bridge, Grouse Mountain, and the day long air excursion to Victoria in a sea plane, with a ferry ride back. :)

 

 

 

After Canada, is the Big BACHELOR party for Ben before he marries the woman of his dreams, Elise!  Las Vegas Baby. Booked a full house, 2 mins from the strip. Pool, Hottub, Pool Table, and patio around the pool that entertains 30 peeps!   August 21-24th

 

 

 

After Vegas, is AUSTRALIA!!! Prolly the MOST excited about this one. I've always wanted to see the fireworks in Sydney on New Years Eve. I've always wanted to take a surf lesson IN Australia, I am in love with Iceberg's Pool, and always wanted to swim in it, and visit the world famous Bondi Beach, and visit the iconic Sydney Opera House.. So...I'm doing it. :)

December 26th- January 4th

 



 



 





Bucket List Video

I made this video yesterday. I love it. Wanna know what I love even more? The possibilities in 2014. I'm amped, excited, and ready to dive in to a new year! Cheers my friends, I love you all! I hope you enjoy this video. :)

Bucket List

So... I'm kinda addicted to this site. Started this up yesterday, and I've come to terms, that this should be MANDATORY for EVERYONE to start. I'm already begging my friends to start one, and follow me, so I can follow them, and we can hold each other accountable, but most importantly, make memories doing some of them with the most important people in our lives!! xoxo everyone!

Click this link and redirect.

http://bucketlist.org/list/pifer.adam/

Haha!! I just noticed #1 on my friend Suzy's list. Cute. we'll have to make that happen!! :)

A Table Rock Christmas

Great way to start my day. 7am hike up to Table Rock, to watch the sunrise with my buddy Mike. The greatest things in life, are not things at all. The greatest things in life, are our feelings towards ourselves, and our friendships with others. I'm spoiled with some of the most amazing people in my life that anyone could ever ask for. On this day, I am thankful for this opportunity on Earth. I am thankful for the people in my life, and the lessons I've learned, from the people out of my life. There are no accidents, on our path. There are intentional interactions. From these moments, we ask ourselves who we really are, and these moments shape who we become throughout our life. I am thankful for a Merciful God, that forgives, and understands. I am not perfect, nor do I ever wish to be, however each day I strive to be better than I was the day before. I'm a work in progress, which, is a lifetime learning process. Merry Christmas to all. Spread love, whether its well received or not...

Moustache Power...

 

Shameless GoPro Selfie...while on private retreat in Tamarack, Idaho.

 

Life is beautiful, and good, and amazing. I've learned to harness the power of my moustache to do incredible things. My favorite thing about my moustache is watching cashiers in checkout lines avoid eye contact with me when talking to me, because they find my moustache to be unbearable awkward. Come to think of it, all strangers avoid eye contact with me when talking, because of the moustache. This just inspires me to keep the conversation alive for as long as possible. Awkward moments are something I live for. I woke up today, thinking maybe I should shave my moustache... but then I remembered, nobody wants normal. The weirdo in me wins. The weirdo in me also keeps me happy. :)

 

Cheers, to getting out of the city... living your life forward, and ridiculous moustaches. I cant wait for summer time. I'm gonna wear short shorts, and rock my moustache. 

 

 

There are a few things in life... That make me very happy. Riding ATV's is definitely one of them towards the very top.

Here are 240 other things I like:

Snickers candy bar, holding hands, two light beers, bonfires, red wine, bananas, affection, fresh mountain air, cuddling when it rains, certain memories, my cat, graham crackers, spiral notebooks, wood decks, surprise photos, NOT making the bed, print magazines not digital, math, the stock market, puppies.

Bicycles, mustache's, emotion jerking love songs, real life endings, yoga pants, yoga pants, yoga pants, (emphasized 3 times, but only counted once), simplicity, the engineering behind a toilet flush, air planes, pilots, lovers, parks, elderly people, kind people, awkward people, quiet people, challenged people, broken people, all people, reading glasses.

Childhood memories, hero's, emotion, risk takers, nerds, Nike shoes, random GoPro videos, shoe boxes, collecting junk, keeping junk, communication, almonds, being alone, large crowds, dive bars, intriguing people, random conversation, waving at red lights, going 5 over the speed limit, declining a call and texting back.

Trucker hats, love, Seattle, dreaming at night, laundry, chasing my cat, flip flops, bacon, original Nintendo, throwing a football, shooting hoops, encouraging others, traveling alone sometimes, flight take off, people watching, chocolate milk shakes, mechanical pencils, journals, printers, text messaging.

Light switches, equal rights, random cards, post cards, licking stamps, books, stock charts, picture frames, painting, spare change, receipts, file cabinets, fireworks, gravel roads, road trips, snow, snow balls, gloves, fortune cookies, fly fishing.

Margaritas, hand written letters and notes, hot sauce, finance books, bar tending, Christmas lights, good company, Starbucks coffee, nature, cabins, McCall Idaho, dry erase boards, backpacks, jeep wranglers, finding a reason to make a chart, calculators, springy door stops, silver rings, laughter, hunters orange.

eBay, blue skies, staring to get caught, introductions with fake names, small containers, driving, the sound of a beer or pop can opening, clarity, confusion, staplers, insulated flannel, conformity, regulated chaos, HD sports, passwords, memorization, good service, cold nights, warm days, the garbage disposal.

Trading stock, goofing off, kick ball, competition, winning, board games, the smell of a woman's hair, problem solving, flash cards, stickers, credit card reward points, Italy, strangers, turkey burgers, baby carrots, rubber bands, mental strength, custom wood projects, winning people over, challenges.

Adversity, aqua net hair spray, dollar stores, mom and pop shops, history, airports, deadlines, lock and keys, lizards, jeep wagoneers, light bulbs, clip boards, whistles, mountains, oscillating fans, soft kisses, water, working zippers, Velcro, play lists.

Fall leaves, stemless wine glasses, writing, uniqueness in everything, deer and elk, grass, movie nights with company, cooking together, spring time, beaches, tourism, camping, resolution, blue skies, cycling, influence, table rock, Boise greenbelt, honest politics, craft stores.

White water rafting, novelty eye glasses, strike anywhere matches, Scentsy candles, tough guys in minivans, prediction, statistics, cruise control, chips n salsa, Microsoft Office, certificates, RV's, pepperoni and mushroom pizza, jeans with holes, lamps, camping equipment, tall buildings, Manhattan, hot showers, and blankets.

Bungee cords, aspen trees, BBQ's, defrost, remote start, under dogs, the Las Vegas strip, Central Park, KTVB Channel 7 News, farmers, tractors, produce markets, determination, chopping wood, Christmas trees, online banking, Boise foothills, packing at the last minute, wireless mouse, and going to bed early.

Imagine Dragons - Demons

Partial Lyrics to the song. Not my words.

Don't want to let you down, But I am hell bound,  Though this is all for you,  Don't want to hide the truth,  No matter what we breed,  We still are made of greed,  This is my kingdom come,  This is my kingdom come.

When you feel my heat,  Look into my eyes,  It's where my demons hide,  It's where my demons hide, Don't get too close, It's dark inside, It's where my demons hide, It's where my demons hide.

They say it's what you make, I say it's up to fate, It's woven in my soul, I need to let you go, Your eyes, they shine so bright, I want to save their light, I can't escape this now, Unless you show me how.

When you feel my heat, Look into my eyes, It's where my demons hide, It's where my demons hide.

Don't get too close, It's dark inside, It's where my demons hide, It's where my demons hide. 

**ENLARGE THIS VIDEO IN THE LOWER RIGHT CORNER AFTER YOU HIT PLAY.

 

Simply....Seattle.

Its just a title..... NOTHING is.......simple, but that's not a right of way, to make EVERYTHING complex...

 

There’s a sliver of irony, in every memory. For as little time as I’ve spent in Seattle, It will ALWAYS hold a heavy spot on my heart. My Hearts spent a LOT more time there, than I ever did. Sunshine to rain, you take the good with that bad. Cheers, Seattle…I Miss You...

 

 

Ben and Elise....Engaged!!!

Couldn't be happier for two of my best friends.  Over the weekend, Ben proposed to his girlfriend Elise on Lovers Bridge, in Paris, France.  This is a special story in my life, because I've been a part of their timeline from their very FIRST date.

2 years ago, almost to this day, I had plans to hang out with Ben. He called to tell me he'd be a little late, because be was going to sneak a quick coffee date in with someone he had met. He insisted it would be quick. 4 hour later, Ben called to tell me he was finishing up with her. haha. It was their FIRST meeting, and it went better than he had planned it would! About 4 weeks after that, Ben and I left Boise, to travel to Europe.  It was a special time for him and I in Paris, because Elise had studied abroad for a semester in Paris.  Ben and I talked about her the whole trip. I had never seen Ben so excited. They had only known each other for a very short time.

On that trip, Ben and I visited a very famous bridge in Paris, called Lovers Bridge.  It was said that lovers traveled from ALL over the world to visit the bridge.  Lovers brought, or bought a lock, and locked it on the chain link railing of the bridge. They then threw the key over the bridge into the river. It is said, that lovers that do this, will love forever, with a love so strong, nothing can break it.

Here is a very neat link that shows the bridge and the locks, please look at it. Just click the link below to see the bridge where Ben proposed.
http://www.parischerie.com/4384/lovers-bridge-over-the-seine-river/

While Ben and I stood on that bridge, we leaned over the railing, and rested our arms, and began to talk. Ben looked at me and said, "Adam, I know Elise and I just met, and its only been a month, but I am going to bring her back to this bridge someday, and I am going to ask her to marry me."  This conversation was in November of 2011. I looked at Ben, and I told him 3 very important things have to happen, for THAT to happen. 

     1)  Elise has to fall in love with you.   (She Did)
     2) You actually have to bring her to Paris.     (He Did)
     3) She has to agree to marry you. hahaha.     (SHE DID!!!)

Over the last two years, I have had a front row seat, to the relationship of Ben and Elise. And over and over, I have thought about what Ben said, 2 years ago, about taking her to Paris to propose. In one of the greatest love stories, I have ever got to witness, Ben and Elise just returned from Paris, where he DID propose to her, and she DID accept! I couldn't be happier, to be a part of this love story, and a part of the wedding next year.  These are two of the most incredible people I have ever been around, and spending time with them, is something that has been, and will continue to be so special and dear to me. Congrats Ben and Elise, I love you Both very much!

When one goof ball, finds another goof ball, they say you should stick together and JOIN FORCES! :)

I look forward to watching these two, continue to grow and learn together while they love each other, and share their love with all those around them.

Love stories are real. They're not just a fairytale that you read about, or dream about. We ALL have a past. We ALL dream of a "certain" kind of future. I think when you stop chasing love, stop living with expectations of perfection, well....it's then, that you find yourself in the "PERFECT" situation.  There is no greater teacher, than two happy people in love.

Its been an incredible ride so far Ben and Elise, and I look forward to many many more years!


In the beginning, after ALL of their dates, Ben would call me on his way home, after he dropped her off. He would recap his night with her, and tell me what an amazing time he had. I loved those calls... It was not only exciting for him, it was also exciting for me. Witnessing true love and happiness is one of the most honest and humbling encounters we can have here on earth. I felt privileged to be a part of those calls... I felt proud to know a man that was doing it the right way.  Ben and I met up, briefly, the day before he left for Paris with Elise. I remember hugging him, looking him in the eyes, and telling him "You did it. You're doing exactly what you said you were going to do." I told him how proud of him I was. I admire Elise for the love and support she gives Ben.  I admire her for her passion, her compassion, and her affection to Ben, and only Ben. But most of all, I will always admire her patience, to be able to put up with Ben.... hahaha :)

From almost the VERY VERY beginning, Ben knew, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that he wanted to marry Elise, and spend his life with her. He not only stated it, very early on, but told me EXACTLY how he would do it, while him and I were in Paris. He did it...

THIS is exciting.     LOVE is exciting.     I cannot wait for the next chapter.... :)

Really Loving This Song Right Now...

Beautiful Lyrics.

Love Stories ARE Real...

 

 

And We Danced...

She was a real woman. But she preferred to be called a young lady. She had other funny habits, that made me feel more normal. We could laugh, and we could lay silent. We could hang out for hours, and both agree that it was never enough time. She was my best friend and I was hers.  I thought of her when the sun shined, and she thought of me at night…
 

A suit, a dress. A candle and a dance. Red wine and my valentine. A man so in love with a woman, that he can’t stop holding her hands. Tears in his eyes, just from looking into hers.  He doesn’t know how he earned this moment, this dance, or this young lady, and all he cares about is her, knowing his heart is hers.

A boy, a girl, he’s looking into my eyes.  This man loves me, but I just can’t decide.  His heart is whole, but I just don’t know, I don’t know if he’s going where I want to go. He is my best friend, a man I love, but I’m not convinced, that I’m ready for this, or really IN love.  This dance feels good, his love is so real, but when this song ends, I’ll let him know, that I’m letting him go.

I love this woman. I can’t picture my life without her, the road we’ve been down, was at times gravel and broken. But she stood by me, came home to me, I was here for her, and I’ve waited for her. Never deterred, never unsure, when this song ends, I’m going to tell her that she is my world.

This is killing me. I love this man. And I can’t even soak up this moment, because we won’t last forever, so I need to let him know, before it gets any deeper. So I’ll hold him close, dance with my head buried in his shoulder, I wish life came with more answers, and fewer unknowns.

She’s pulling me closer, I can see her tears, I’ve never been so confident, that this love will withstand the weather, through all of the coming years.  I chose her for this night, for this moment, for my life,  she must feel the exact same way, that our happiness together was meant to be. I’ve never been happier.

I’m breathing deeper, this man loves me completely.  I can’t let him love me any longer. Do I do it tonight, do I wait for a fight, something about either decision doesn’t feel right. Do I run cuz I know, or do I run cuz I don’t know, I wasn’t ready for this type of decision. This is overwhelming.

I’m going to play another song for her after this, because I never want this night to end…

I hope another song comes on after this, because I’m confused, and I’m screaming inside, and I don’t know how to accept the end.

Our hearts brought us together, it’s hard to believe our minds will let this go.

And I am the narrator. The fly on the wall. I watch these lovers, dancing in the hall.  I feel eternity in his heart, I feel pressure on her mind.  I know the outcome, that he doesn’t know at all. Unsuspected, as he loves, but if he dug down to the core of his heart, he would accept what she saw.  And he will, in time, and he will know that he cannot rewind the feelings at this time.

I am the narrator. And you ask me, how do I know so much. Because I am his heart and his mind.  I am his subconscious, that accepts the truth, when the heart is taken out of the equation.  I am his instincts. His survival. I am the one that protects him, when there is a disconnect, and an intersection, in his life. And although I saw this coming, it will break his heart tonight.  He will ask how, and why, and those are all questions that will be answered in time. In time, when I have time to talk to him, and show him their battled timeline.

This is not a mess. This is love ending, in a beautiful red dress. A flower’s life ending, to render a new seed into the ground. A red rose upon us, wilting, dried up in the night, is STILL just as beautiful, and the day it first blossomed. And he runs his hands across her shoulder blades, down her arms, and embraces her hands, his optimism lets him smile, but she knows this love is dying.

There is no better moment, even if you know it is the last moment, when you love with an open heart. No restrictions, no held back convictions, you will pull the heart from my sleeve tonight, and it will be left on the table, where we had dinner and wine.

I could stop this all from happening. I could sit down and attempt to solve this equation. But I will never wish to delay the inevitable, so I’m trying to appreciate this moment. And I will. And I do. And I will never forget. But my heart will always wonder what the rest of these moments could have been like, over a lifetime. But that’s the treasure, that keeps us hunting.  A rainstorm that renders a rainbow, a pot of gold, and a heart that keeps believing.

Am I lost. No. Am I broken. Maybe. Will I survive, and come back stronger, I will promise you yes.  And every day I keep believing, that my life fits a mold that makes me smile.  And just as the mold renders comfort, I want it to change.  And the train tracks that I follow, are simply a guide. I am not afraid to change the direction that they lead me. There is no predetermined mold. There is a life. A mind. A heart. And a million unknowns. Each decision, will put our lives in different intersections, that lead to different places, and who can call that wrong?

No one.

One life. One million decisions. One outcome. No regrets. This…..is life. 

Life IS Love. Accept NO alternative.


Cheers, Adam

Talk about an eye opener! Cheers to people that love one at a time! If you're truly in love, you CAN'T fall in love with someone else.

Choose the SECOND PERSON, thanks.

I like this pic. EXCEPT...I would change the first word from YOU, to I, and the last word from YOU to ME. That's It.

Oh, and the YOU in the middle, well ya, I'd change that to ME. :)

 



Alyssa Roman...Life Celebration

**For those of you that were asking me, and messaging me for a copy of my speech at Alyssa's Life Celebration, here it is.  You can copy and paste it into Microsoft Word, and print it from there or just save the file. :)



Most of you here know me already... But for those of you who don't, my name is Adam Pifer and I was a Bar back and fruit cutter at china blue for 6 years. J

 

Please bear with me, I haven’t spoken in front of a group of people, in over 10 years, since college. I don’t think screaming “last call” every weekend at 1:45 really counts as public speaking… J

My decision to write this, started with a post I wrote on FB for Alyssa... And I found myself continuing that post in my journal. So I will first read the post, and then continue.

 

“Thinking about Alyssa Roman... Life is NOT measured by the AMOUNT of time you are on Earth, but rather the QUALITY of time you share, the LOVE you spread, the HANDS you hold, the WISDOM you share, and the COMPASSION you teach. The smile on your face could wrap the whole world with love and warmth in less than a second. Your spot in Heaven was ready for you, because your LOVE and LEGACY is tattooed on the hearts and minds of EVERY person you encountered.

 

Save a spot for each of us in Heaven, as the good times will SURELY continue with you as each of us finish our journey on Earth. Thank you for the smiles. The memories. The laughs. The love. The support. The lessons. The compassion. We are ALL better people for the influence you had upon us, and THOSE memories can NEVER be taken from us. Losing someone can bring pain and sorrow...BUT...we didn't lose you...Each and EVERY one of us GAINED from you...Thank you Alyssa Roman. Thank you for being YOU. And putting up with all of US. I am smiling today...finally. And I know you are too. God Bless. WE LOVE YOU...”

 

So…When I finished that post, I made myself dinner. After dinner, I sat down on my couch. And I found myself with a pen in my hand. I didn’t know what else to say… but I felt as if someone, somewhere was nudging me to keep going. To say more. And to deliver a message to all of you here today. So…here I am.

 

She had a zero tolerance for disrespect on shift. Alyssa defended her girls on every shift. She defended her bouncers. And she defended her guests. And one time, I even heard her defending Ted. :)

She was a lover and a fighter. If you complained to her about something, she would tell you to get over it. But she always said it with such a perfect smile. I called it fire and ice. :) She never let you ponder or fester on anger, and she doesn’t want you to right now either. She was supportive, understanding, and a pure joy to be around. She could ride the bull perfectly with no hands. I couldn't even ride it with two hands. And I'm from Kuna.

 

When I first got word of this, I was at a club in Portland last Saturday night. Matty was the first to tell me. My reaction was probably the same as most of you.  Shock and disbelief. I came home Sunday, and I got on my bike. I rode my bike every day this last week. I thought…and I thought some more.  And I asked myself, what would MY reaction be to this situation.  Everything came back to one word. PERSPECTIVE.  I had two choices.  As do all of you.

 

I was overcome with emotion.  I could allow that emotion to turn to anger. I could ask God why. And I could repeat a question I would never have an answer to.  I could harbor feelings that would hinder my own happiness for as long as I CHOSE to fight this.

 

Or I could look for the opportunity Alyssa gave us.  I could look at the beautiful opportunity Alyssa gave each and every one of us.  And that opportunity is, to take this opportunity to examine our own lives.  To read between the lines of the choices and decisions we make on a daily basis.  Alyssa gave ALL of us an opportunity to implement an intervention in our own lives. Who will make the decision here today to do that, I know I will.

 

And so I asked myself, what is my purpose on this earth? Am I giving enough? Am I listening enough?  Am I loving enough? Where and how can I grow and give more? And why haven’t I done it yet?  This opportunity Alyssa gave me, to recognize this, will ABSOLUTELY change my life. And I ask that each and every one of you see the opportunity in this moment, to change your life.

 

In hard times, we all need a vice. Cycling is my vice. Each of you have your own vice.  Some of you lift. Some run. Some shop. Some write.  But I have learned this week, the greatest vice we will ever have, is each other.  The greatest resource on this earth, is not money, oil, or diamonds. It’s us. It’s the chain link we create, when we join hands and hearts. 

 

So I ask all of you, what would Alyssa want? A glass half empty? Or a glass half full? A group of friends hurting? Or a group of friends holding hands? Frowns, and questions? Or smiles and loving memories. We all know that answers to these questions. And in a time when some questions can’t be answered, maybe we can all leave this building with some of our own questions answered on where OUR life goes from here.  And THAT is perspective my friends. That is how we handle adversity and painful moments together. We do NOT hold on to pain. We CHOOSE to replace that with happiness.  Just as Alyssa would WANT us to do.

 

Death on earth is not an ending. It's a beginning. A birth. To something bigger. Something better. An infinity of bliss and happiness, where the ONLY pain, is patiently waiting for the people you love, to join you.

Life is all perspective. We didn't lose her. God found her. And God needed her.

We use gatherings and events as a platform to spread propaganda. So I will do the same. My propaganda is love. Peace. And the pursuit of happiness. We spend every day looking at the first layer, of the people around us. The first layer may look good, but it will never give you satisfaction that lasts. When you leave this building, look deeper. BEFORE you leave this building, look deeper. The greatest gift anyone can give you comes from the core being of who they are. Give from the inside, and let it shine on the outside. Alyssa was the epitome of this.   

 

As you each climb your own ladders of life...don't be afraid to hang by one hand, to grab someone else, and help them catch up. We are in this together. We are a team. We are friends. We are a family. And we are strongest, in numbers. They say always look forward in life.  Don't look behind you. But the greatest surprises in life happen on your left and right, never in front of your face.

 

We are gathered here today for the same cause. To celebrate the life of Alyssa, and to continue a strong foundation and love for Jaxyn. But not all of us know each other. Before you leave here today... Make a new friend. Introduce yourself. But not because I asked you to. Do it because you want to, and as a gift to Alyssa, because even though all of you don’t know each other, you are ALL family to Alyssa.  And THAT is the common denominator that placed us here together today, side by side.

Strive every day, to make you heart, the biggest muscle in your body. It will always be the strongest muscle you have, when you let your mind guide the workouts of life. Tell the people you love, that you love them. We shouldn’t fear…saying what we feel. Even if it’s not reciprocated. Silence, will never hurt as bad as regret.

 

It's not our job to make the people around us, love us. But it is out job, to love the people around us. Alyssa, IS a perfect example of exactly that. And that is a lesson that can LIVE ON. There is a lesson, and a liberty to every action around us. Let the lesson here today be to love fully. Let the liberty be to make peace within yourself for the things you cannot control. I envy the day, where the size of someone’s heart, outweighs his or her social status within their community. The crazy thing is... We decide, as individuals, friends, families, and communities... When that day comes.

 

A true heart can reach far more people, than an ignorant mind. We all fight wars. Whether it’s with a mirror, or our own mind. Let today be a reminder, to love one another, and never to abandon one another. It's not the words you choose, that make something sound good, or the face that says them. It's the passion you put behind them. It's the integrity you put within them. And the journey you take, to stand by them.

 

We all love Alyssa. And the greatest tribute we can give to her, is to examine our own lives, and make the proper adjustments, that make US better people. I am confident, that would make her the happiest.  Love yourself. Love the people around you. Ask for help when you need it, offer a listening ear instead of talking. Ask people how they are, never assume, and most importantly… SLOW DOWN. Enjoy the little things. Because life will show you…the little things, ARE the big things.

 

I believe it takes half warrior, and half angel to find a happy medium on this earth.  Alyssa was the best example of both.  She could spit fire when necessary, but she preferred to spread her wings.

 

In this world, there are leaders, and there are followers. Today, I will ask all of you to be both.  Lead with your heart, and then follow it.

 

God Bless Alyssa. Let’s finish our work here on this earth in good fashion. And let’s do it with an open heart, and an open mind. A special thank you to each and every one of you that took the time to come out here today and show your love and support.

 

Let’s raise our drinks for the celebration of our dear friend, and sister, Alyssa.